How to have a feminist wedding.

Can you be a feminist + believe in marriage?

Of course you can! (I didn't always believe this was true. Many still don't. Whatevs. You do you.)

Feminism is about choice. If you've found someone you're willing to build a life with, and you want to legally bind them to you, jump aboard - we ride at midnight*. *Or whenever suits you - your day, your way!

Your wedding day should be an accurate representation of who you are + what you care about.

Don’t give anyone else’s opinion a second thought - this is about the two of you, and what YOU want. This is your day, let’s do it your way. I believe in ‘enoughness’, and making do, and I believe we should always stay connected to our values. Sometimes we get to our wedding day and we throw all of that in the bin - but I don’t think we should. We often feel the pressure to follow tradition, and do ‘the done thing’, but I’m here to tell you: don’t. You don’t have to! You do you.

Be true + authentic to yourselves + your relationship.

Enjoy getting caught up in the whirlwind of your wedding, it’s an enormous life event and it will be a bloody fun day, but remember to check back in with yourselves + each other - this day is about why you fell in love, and why you’re getting married in the first place! You probably won’t remember what table settings you used, but you will remember how you felt.

Many of the traditions of marriage ceremonies are outdated.

Ceremonies can often feel old-fashioned, antiquated, or kind of boring. The tradition of marriage was long ago built around the patriarchy too - weddings often don’t reflect the feminist ideals that many of us now hold (and those before us have fought for). But your marriage ceremony doesn’t have to be this way - and it shouldn’t be! Your wedding + your marriage should reflect who you both are, and what you value. This day you’re planning together should be all about what matters most to the two of you.

The only legally required parts of your ceremony are the Monitum (your Celebrant says this bit), the Legal Vows (you say this bit), and signing the Marriage Register (you + your Celebrant do this bit together). Beyond these 3 items - you can do whatever you like! Absolutely ANYTHING.

Take everything as a guide / option only - your can include or exclude (almost) anything you would like.